One past leadership experience that I have had is when I was participating in a group activity during high school. The objective was to act out a skit in front of the class. There were four parts, and four participants. I knew I did not want to be one of the parts, but decided to let everyone else choose their parts first. The part that ended up being left for me turned out to be the part I wanted the least. I could have chosen to speak up and voice my opinions, but in this case decided against it. This situation ended up improving my relational transparency, and I now speak up even if I feel my opinions are not as strong as they could be.
My internalized moral perspective was enhanced when I witnessed one of my close friends humiliate another girl. They were both running for the same leadership position for a group we were all involved in. My friend was very assertive about what she said, and did not let the other girl speak at all. She accused the girl of being unmotivated and ineffective. I saw how she was making the other girl feel, and decided that I did not want to be the kind of leader she was being in that moment. I have learned to talk about problems in a private setting, where opinions cannot be swayed by others, and to always listen to the thoughts of the ones I am speaking with.
Another event that helped cultivate my leadership skills was during a choir rehearsal. A section of music that was being sung did not sound correct to me. I was debating on whether or not to speak out about the issue. This forced me to build up my balanced processing skills. I knew that if I spoke up and the teacher fixed the problem that the music would sound better, but some of the other students might resent me for bringing up something that they hadn’t noticed. I also knew that the problem might be so insignificant that it wasn’t even worth changing. I decided to speak up, and the problem was indeed insignificant. Although I was proud of myself for speaking, better processing would have led to a course of action that may have ended better.
I can develop my skills as a leader further by understanding everyone’s differences, and relating to individuals accordingly. I can also be a bit more assertive instead of allowing others to dominate in conversation. I could also make sure that I understand a situation fully before adding my opinion to the mix. The goals that I have set for myself are high, but I believe with hard work they can be reached.
My internalized moral perspective was enhanced when I witnessed one of my close friends humiliate another girl. They were both running for the same leadership position for a group we were all involved in. My friend was very assertive about what she said, and did not let the other girl speak at all. She accused the girl of being unmotivated and ineffective. I saw how she was making the other girl feel, and decided that I did not want to be the kind of leader she was being in that moment. I have learned to talk about problems in a private setting, where opinions cannot be swayed by others, and to always listen to the thoughts of the ones I am speaking with.
Another event that helped cultivate my leadership skills was during a choir rehearsal. A section of music that was being sung did not sound correct to me. I was debating on whether or not to speak out about the issue. This forced me to build up my balanced processing skills. I knew that if I spoke up and the teacher fixed the problem that the music would sound better, but some of the other students might resent me for bringing up something that they hadn’t noticed. I also knew that the problem might be so insignificant that it wasn’t even worth changing. I decided to speak up, and the problem was indeed insignificant. Although I was proud of myself for speaking, better processing would have led to a course of action that may have ended better.
I can develop my skills as a leader further by understanding everyone’s differences, and relating to individuals accordingly. I can also be a bit more assertive instead of allowing others to dominate in conversation. I could also make sure that I understand a situation fully before adding my opinion to the mix. The goals that I have set for myself are high, but I believe with hard work they can be reached.